Help for men who have been called, “Momma’s Boy”. If you have ever glued two things together like wood when you repair a piece of wooden furniture you know that you must clean off both surfaces, put enough glue on them and then hold the two pieces together long enough for them to make a good connection and bond till the glue dries. If you do that and use a good glue it is very hard to separate the pieces.
In marriage in order for there to be a connection and lasting bond between husband and wife you must go through a similar process. Gen 2:23 gives us the process. I call it the N/ L/ C/ process.
Gen.2:23 And Adam said this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and
shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Part one of that process is Naming:
There is a Naming that Adam does, the husband establishes the relationship when he officially, legally declares what the relationship will be, he identifies that this woman is a part of him, and she is his missing part. Adam is the one that names her, calling her woman, (Is shah) in the original language. This is what is supposed to be happening at your wedding – you are declaring to the world that this is officially, spiritually, and legally your wife, your missing part and she is now your woman. You do this before God, your family, her family, friends, enemies and past lovers. Her father passes the responsibility of her care, nurture and protection over to you when the minister asked,”who gives this woman”. You said. “I Do” and accepted the responsibility spiritually, emotionally and legally to take care of, love and provide for her.
